How Well Do You Know Your Husband? 135+ Questions You Need To Ask Him!

How well do you know your husband? This is a question that every woman needs to ask and one I want you to think about as you read this post.

Kelly and I have been married for just over 20 years, and I love continuing to get to know him more and more every day. Even after all these years, I still learn new things about him.

He is my best friend, and yet there is still so much I do not know about him.

The more we get to know these men we call our husbands, the more we can show up for and support them. And the more we get to know them, the more they, in turn, spend the time to get to know us! It’s a win-win. Strong marriages are built on emotional and physical intimacy.

I created this fun list of questions to help you get to know your man on a deeper level. These fun questions provide the perfect way to open up meaningful conversations and spend some quality time together. So please print this out and bring it along on road trips or date night.

1. What is your favorite memory from our dating years?
2. What food(s) reminds you most of me?
3. What is your favorite ice cream flavor?
4. What was your first cell phone like?
5. What is your favorite way to have a good time?
6. What is on the top of your bucket list?
7. What is one of your biggest regrets in life?
8. What was the last positive thought you had about me?
9. What is your favorite thing that I do for you?
10. What movie feels the most like “us”?
11. Which of your parents do you feel like you are the most like?
12. Which of our kids do you think is most like you? No kids-Do you want kids?
13. What’s my best physical feature?
14. What do you like most that I do in bed?
15. What could I do better/more of in bed?
16. What’s your favorite time of day to get frisky?
17. Do you like kissing or hugging more?
18. When did you know I was the one for you?
19. Do you ever get jealous?
20. Do you ever dream about me?
21. What could I do better to be a better spouse?
22. If you get sick, how can I best take care of you?
23. Do you know I love you? Like really know?
24. When did you first want to kiss me?
25. What’s your favorite activity that we do together?
26. Did you trust your parents while growing up?
27. What is your favorite thing I ever did you?
28. What is your secret sexual fantasy?
29. What is your favorite sexual position?
30. Do you ever think about me sexually during the day?
31. What could I do to help you trust me more?
32. When do you feel the most taken care of by me?
33. When we hang out with friends, do you feel seen and included by me?
34. When we are with my family, do you feel seen and included by me?
35. What are your deal-breakers?
36. What was your very first opinion of me?
37. What about me were you most attracted to at first?
38. What was your parent’s marriage like? What did you learn from them?
39. Were your parents affectionate towards one another?
40. What is your favorite book?
41. Do you have a favorite author?
42. What is your favorite song?
43. What is your favorite color?
44. What was your first favorite movie growing up?
45. What was your favorite toy growing up?
46. What was your favorite game to play with your friends when you were a kid?
47. What does your perfect retirement look like?
48. What kind of grandparent do you think you’ll be?
49. If you changed your career, what would you change it to?
50. What do you love most about yourself?
51. What is your biggest fear?
52. What is your favorite dessert?
53. What do you think your greatest talent is?
54. Who was your favorite teacher in school?
55. What’s your favorite memory of your mom?
56. What’s your favorite memory of your dad?
57. Which ex, before me, had the biggest impact on you?
58. What did you think after our first time together?
59. Did you like high school or college better?
60. Where do you want to travel to most in the world?
61. What was your favorite class in high school?
62. What was the best party you ever went to?
63. Tell me about a time you felt the happiest?
64. What makes you the most anxious?
65. What makes you the angriest?
66. What are your thoughts on God?
67. What’s a question you’ve never asked me?
68. What personality trait do you like most about yourself?
69. Is there a personality trait you wish you could change?
70. Have you ever gotten obsessed with some topic?
71. Did you collect stuff as a kid?
72. Which of your parents did you go to when you wanted to talk?
73. What’s the most scared you ever felt as a child?
74. What are you most proud of?
75. Where do you see us in ten years?
76. If we were stuck on a deserted island, what five things would you bring with us?
77. Which of your friends would you choose if you had to be on a desert island with just one?
78. Which of your friends is most like you?
79. What do you think about couples who are married but live in different cities?
80. What do you think about couples who own a business together and spend all their time together?
81. Which would you like most: a summer house, a year-long vacation, or a boat?
82. What would you do with a million dollars?
83. What would you do with an extra $1,000? You can only spend it on yourself!
84. When you were a kid, did you feel that you fit in?
85. What was your favorite subject in middle school?
86. Did you go through puberty before or after everyone else, or right on time?
87. Who was your first crush?
88. Who was your first kiss?
89. Who was the first person to have a crush on you?
90. Do you think of yourself as an introvert or an extrovert?
91. If you could go back in time, what age would you be again?
92. If you could see into the future, what would you want to know?
93. What’s your most extraordinary talent?
94. What is your most unique trait?
95. What makes me different from the other people you’ve been with?
96. What is the best thing about our relationship?
97. Do you ever compare yourself to other guys/girls?
98. Which of my friends do you think is the most fun?
99. Are you an optimist, a pessimist, or a realist?
100. When you wake up in the middle of the night, what do you think about it?
101. If you had to change one thing about yourself, what would it be?
102. Do you think I’m more of an optimist, a pessimist, or a realist?
103. As a teenager, did you ever rebel against your parents?
104. Who’s the closest person to you in your extended family?
105. Did you ever want more or fewer siblings?
106. How did your siblings shape who you are?
107. What was your favorite date night we ever had?
108. What are your secret thoughts when you see me at the end of the day?
109. Do you ever wish I could read your mind? When?
110. . What things about me make you know I’m the one for you?
111. What is the best gift you have ever received?
112. Tell me about your first job.
113. If you could eat one food for the rest of your life, what would it be?
114. Do you like your middle name?
115. What household chore do you dislike the most?
116. What is the most embarrassing thing that has ever happened to you?
117. Which of the five love languages fits you the most? Touch, Gifts, Words of Affirmation, Quality Time, or Acts of Service.
118. What is the first thing you think about in the morning?
119. How do you best like to celebrate a special occasion?
120. What is the first movie you remember seeing as a kid?
121. What do you think about couples counseling?
122. What is your biggest pet peeve?
123. What is one memory or story you have never shared with me?
124. Tell me about a time you felt brave.
125. Tell me about your perfect day.
126. How can I better help you meet your own needs?
127. What are some date night ideas we have not tried?
128. When was the last time you felt really happy?
129. When was the last time you cried?
130. On a scale of 1-10, how am I doing as a spouse?
131. What is your biggest dream in life?
132. What do you wish was different about our life?
133. Do you feel loved by me?
134. What is one thing that drives you nuts about me?
135. What is your favorite thing about me?
136. . Tell me about a hard time in your life.

questions were adapted from a post on lifehack.org

Holy Cow, there you have it, 135 questions to ask your husband to get to know him better. Even better, make it a game. I made an easy printable, making it easier to cut the questions up and place them in a jar, much like my road trip jar game.

These questions will help you gauge and answer the question, How well do you know your husband? There is always more to learn and discover! Keeping your emotional intimacy high is a great way to keep your marriage strong!

It is important to remember to allow honesty. These questions may have tough answers that you may not want to hear. But I firmly believe that the way to make things better is to ask important questions and provide space for candor and openness in all responses. All judgments need to be left at the door on this one. Let feeling be expressed freely. Fight the urge to defend or minimize your partner’s feelings or opinions. They are being HONEST, and you have to respect that. You may learn a lot by really listening to how your spouse feels.

Good Luck + Much Love,